Happy New Month guys! And a big thank you for your awesome response to my maiden post. Y’all are the best. So, back to why I’m here. As a foreigner living in Saudi Arabia, life can be errrrr…well… interesting. I get the chance to experience first-hand, all I have heard and read in the media. Surprisingly, not all are true. I won’t delve into the long list of rules; however I would like to talk about 5 positive things I can take home with me when I leave here. Honestly, I had a paradigm shift when I got here. I realized, not all things we see as a normal lifestyle is the right lifestyle.
1. Hospitality: I’ve seen that hospitality is a way of life and not just sectioned to when you check in into a hotel. I can understand the insecurity issues in Nigeria that stifle our hospitable traits but I can’t help but applaud the hospitality here. (Kai, why do I have the need to call it ‘hospitation’? Kai! Bubu, English hard oh.LOL) Anyway, as I was saying, the people are so welcoming. If you visit someone at short notice or perhaps unannounced, you still get the maximum gleeful treatment like you were actually invited. When they serve a meal to you for coming, it looks like a feast. You are served with variety of drinks, main dish, desserts etc. In my incorrect head I’d tell hubby, ”if na naija style, we go tell Ekaette* to run go bring one bottle of warm Maltina from Mama Nkechi*”, and that’s us being nice for you just bursting in unannounced. Anyway I’ve learned to always prepare for guests both invited and unannounced and treat them like VIPs.
This was given to me by one of them, just to welcome me back from the hospital after child birth. HOSPITALITY!!
2. Courtesy: Oh yes, there is a difference between courtesy and hospitality. Courtesy is being polite towards others. Hospitality is a friendly, generous reception and entertainment given to guests, visitors or strangers. Now about courtesy here, in gender-free public places, I hardly see a man sitting when a woman or an elder is standing. The man would always clear the seat for the aforementioned. Most of us are courteous in this area but seeing it everywhere you turn here is just golden. Customer service is prompt. Free from “anything for your boys” mentality. Sometimes they go the extra mile and you feel you should tip them; they have a surprised look when you attempt that, leaving you feeling stupid. LOL.
3. Fashion: Contrary to what I thought, this people, especially the ladies know their fashion. What they minimize in their apparels, they make up in flashy handbags and other accessories. Let the abayas (black robe) not fool you. On special occasions, beneath them are apparels with thousands of rhinestones. I was opportune to attend a wedding here and I thought to myself how I was gon’ slay them with my outfit underneath my abaya. Uh boy, I was wrong. When we arrived at the female section and took off our abayas, I was almost blinded by their outfits. Well, that didn’t stop me from enjoying the feast with them and my braids stole the show. Some Indians were like “I love your hair”, in my mind I was like, “If only you knew the mayhem your hair have caused in my country”. Haute couture, Birkin bags, name them… they’ve ‘garrit’. So for the record, it is possible to be conservative and chic.
4. Devotion to family: This is the second primary reason why the conservative laws rule here. Be sure to have your spouse to yourself. No kurukere waka. No “hanging out with da boys” or having “girls nite out”. If you have an argument with your partner, where you wan run go? You must come home and settle. This was a big PLUS in my marriage. You are free from comparisons and external interference and just learn how to manage your home together. Family is everything here. The slightest fever to one, is a panic attack to all. Be sure to expect the whole family hover around the doctor uncontrollably for that fever.
5. Devotion to God: The primary aim of the conservative rules here. C’mon guys, Praying 5 times a day? You gotta give it to them. This is a lot of discipline. For those seeking a better spiritual life, taking time to pray is key. It keeps you more in tune with your spirit.
Talking about being cautious, oops, I meant courteous, a round of applause for this guy. He sure took one for the team. LOL. Enjoy this video.
This happened in India, whether it is a hoax or real, it sure cracked me up.
PS: Ekatte and Mama Nkechi are not real names, if any of these is your name, no vex. Na play I dey play.
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