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Does Motherhood Get Easy With Time?

The smiles of your child/children cannot be traded for anything in the world. You would literally give up your life for them. However, these angels know how to make you pay a price; pushing you to your wit’s end. I have to ask the above question because I remember how older Moms would say, “Cherish these moments. Take it all in because they grow up so fast!” I hold on to this saying as truth, since it’s coming from several Moms but in hindsight, Is it?

I was telling Le hubs how it was so quiet and calm before our first child arrived. As soon as my daughter arrived, my whole world started spinning. I am so grateful that we haven’t dealt with health issues which could have been worse. However, I see myself coming up with tactics, schemes and tricks on dealing with her age because she surprises us with new things everyday and she demands that we keep up with her pace. Then came our second child and I just thought this would be a breeze, since I’ve been on that route before. I was wrong. I found out, with every age and  personality comes its own challenges. My two kids are 4 and 2 respectively and now I have to deal with sibling fights, tag-team notoriety, their individual notoriety and ofcourse, school run. A year ago, these weren’t my challenges. My challenge then, for example was making sure my son met his milestones, reading the ABCs to my daughter etc. Now she knows all these and more. They are more explorative, meaning more headaches for me. She literally will ask you questions for an hour non-stop and expect your attentive answers. I often feel my head spinning because I’m cautioning, I’m scolding, I’m preventing, I’m pacifying, I’m organizing….and organizing….and organizing. Then I ask myself why would any Mom hold on to these as cherished moments? The strangest part is that, no matter how exhausted you are with the whole cycle, there is always strength to protect and be a chaperone over them and wait for their pacifying smiles and giggles.

I looked into the lives of people with older kids and tell them how lucky they are and they reply with an assured sarcasm, then they blurt out in black and white, “It’s never over!” I can attest to the fact that most of my friends with older kids still do the ‘screaming mom’ whilst on the phone with me. That doesn’t give me hope that I’d finally be calm in my own home.

Will this ever end? People say it would but with this era of kids, we fight against alot of things especially their interaction with the world wide(wild) web. Coupled with my paranoia,  I can forsee how my paranoia would make me call my 18 year old kids and (probably have a fake social media account to stalk them. lol). That’s a lot of work on my hands. My mom is an example of a mom who is still on mom duties till date. I thought she goes overboard with her care, I’ve found out I’m on the same track as she was with me. Now we have to spy on our Kids’ computer history, Spy on them to make sure they ain’t acting silly with an online contact or a negative viral video and pray relentlessly to God to make them ‘behave’. I just watched on a crime channel how two 12 year old White girls lured their ‘friend’ for a sleep-over chaperoned by their parents. The morning after, they asked for permission to play in the park and off they went. The two 12 year olds stabbed the friend 19 times, almost to death. When they were asked, they said they were into a character they follow online. I was in shock at how this happened. That just raises my paranoia as a Mom.

It seems the Mom life keeps unraveling different experiences, so does it get easier with time or even harder (especially with this era)? As for the stage I’m in now, I don’t think a Yoga class, a Feng Shui or a romantic getaway will take the constant spinning headaches. Where are my super Moms at? Stay-at-home moms, working moms, single moms, you all are doing a great job. Whilst at it, let’s hold hands and sing ‘Kumbaya‘ or just go acapella on ‘Jesus, take the wheel’. It should be worth it. Please share your knowledge on this journey.

 

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    Madeline
    January 23, 2018 at 10:33 pm

    Motherhood really is a nonstop, full time and permanent job. The scenario you described about the girls who lured their friend to the park only to do her evil is scary. May God help us all!

    Madeline

    http://www.madelinewilsonojo.com

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      Bubu
      January 24, 2018 at 3:22 pm

      Honestly. That story got me glued to the TV; a luxury I can no longer afford.It was so scary, no mom would have thought any evil of it until it happened.

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    THE EMETE SMART BLOG
    January 24, 2018 at 9:49 am

    Motherhood doesn’t in any way get easy with time. Infact, it gets tougher because your child is growing everyday and is being exposed to different things everyday. You would have to learn newer principles and strategies.

    http://www.liveinibadan.blogspot.com

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      Bubu
      January 24, 2018 at 3:23 pm

      Uh buoy! A wrinkle line just literally popped on my face, reading this comment. lol. God help us

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