Happy weekend,people! How y’all doing? Today is Saturday and I trust, atleast 6 out of 10 people are getting ready to attend a wedding or are having a wedding. Recently, I started following Bella Naija weddings on Instagram and honestly, I’m glad I’m not getting married in this era ‘cos every wedding I see now is a high-class wedding. I wedded almost 4 years ago but the fast evolution between then and now is jaw- dropping. I have seen breath-taking wedding themes and photography (pre wedding, wedding and post wedding photoshoots) that will make your once -upon-a- time gorgeous wedding photo, go and hide in humility. Una wehdone o! I really admire the trend and styles in today’s weddings but I also feel for a stylish bride who’s on a tight budget. So how does she have the glitz and glam without bankrupting her lineage and her husband’s?
First things first, understand that every girl dreams of this day and will do anything to make the day as fancy as it’s been playing in her head. I don’t blame you, I did the same too. But this advice I’m about to give you might come in handy. Not only will you understand in future how golden this advice is, other married women would be nodding their heads in agreement….I hope.
1. About your wedding gown: Yes, it is beautiful to have your ‘God-sent’ wedding gown, New and packaged from the designer to you. However, know this. After that day, you ain’t going to use it except you plan on wedding twice..thrice..fourice, I mean quadruple times or more. I hated the option of hiring but it seemed more like a reasonable idea. So hiring is an option. What I did was strike a balance, I ordered a new gown in form of a first wearer basis. That is, wear a new gown and pay half of its worth but return it when you are done and some fee will be paid back to you. That way you save a lot of money buying a new gown and abandoning it. For those buying a new gown for keeps, having it in mind that you would keep it for your daughter to use in her time. That’s wicked! By the time she is grown, she won’t be needing your outdated wedding dress. She won’t even accept it for prom, how much more for her wedding. You sef!
2. Choose a classic theme: What I mean is whatever you are choosing for your wedding, whether dress styles, hair styles, color schemes etc. Try to choose what will not go out of style. The rule of thumb here is to imagine your wedding picture frame in 50 years. How would it look? Ridiculous or elegant? It’s good to follow trends but most times trends look funny when it’s outdated.
3. Choose where to be frugal and where to splurge: I personally tried to be frugal on some things but splurged on decorations because that’s what I love. Yours could be different. Do not be afraid to strike good bargains, or hire service providers who are your friends (they’ll give you a great deal). The most important thing is to work with a budget and be strict about it. Oh that was the second most important thing. “Cut your coat according to your size” is the most important.
3. Delegate: Try delegating affairs to trusted people so you don’t overwork yourself. Trust me, you will be too overwhelmed on your wedding day to even know your left from right.
4. It’s okay to be nervous: You think you are a “people person” until it’s time to walk down the aisle, then you realise that everyone is here to see you. That could be frightening. Go with the flow, one step at a time, you’re going to be someone’s bride at the end of the day.
5. The Kiss: Don’t get worked up. There’s no particular way to do it. Just freestyle. A soft kiss, a French Kiss or an Ashewo kiss (The one the Pastor will be shouting, “It’s okay! It’s okay! Ozugo!..Ma binu!“)
6. There’s no such thing called “A perfect wedding”: Except you are Cinderella and you finish your wedding ceremony before the clock strikes 12 on you. In weddings, things might not totally go your way. I’m such a perfectionist and when some things didn’t go as planned, I kept replaying it in my head and groaning. The truth is those things don’t matter to me anymore. Trust me, they won’t to you too, so don’t get worked up over things that didn’t go as planned.
7. The Wedding night: Ghen Ghennn! Let’s paint the picture here. You, being carried by your boo to the room. Scented candles around the bath tub. Rose petals leading to your room and sprinkled around your bed in heart shape. Lavender scented pillows. Satin sheets. Two flutes of golden Chardonay. D’Angelo’s “cruising” playing….Hold on for a sec, there! In as much as this could go down your way. There’s a high chance that it won’t. Here’s why. You two could be so exhausted from the ceremony. You could have allergies from the petals and a fire outbreak from the lit candles..Sorry, I kid…or not.. Okay, I kid. Honestly, don’t feel bad if your expensive lingerie doesn’t get ripped off on this night. It will surely be ripped off another day. Lol. Some couples do have a wild night as planned while some don’t. No big deal. You have the honeymoon and ’till death do us part’ to play out your passion.
So these are my advice. Above all, Marriage is more important than a wedding. Now run along, find a very good offering, go to church on Sunday after wedding for thanksgiving and watch how eyes gleefully look at you with that ‘knowing’ that you did something ‘bad’ the previous night. Lol. Don’t even bother looking at your Dad in the eyes, he hates you right now. Hahahaha! “Daddy’s girl” traitor! I’m arra- here!
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