Today is the 3rd of August and it marks my 2nd child’s 7th month on earth. I love the number ‘7’, maybe because I was born on the 7th month of the year. I usually would have been heralding his 6th month milestone but the 7th month is my thing. Honestly, I am so grateful to God for this boy’s journey. I have not visited the hospital or treated a mild fever on him since birth. Unlike my experience with my first child (my daughter) who would always throw up after every feed, have a fever every now and then(vaccinations scared me ‘cos she always had a fever after), even hold back her own stool so she could be constipated .LOL. My girl is a drama queen, so is her system. Thank God she has outgrown that stage. Now I’m at rest because God is indeed showing himself in their general well being. Somebothy shout Harllerluryar!
Now let’s concentrate on my topic. My child’s milestone got me thinking on how my life has changed in the space of 3 years( basically from when I got pregnant with my first child who’s 2 years +7 months). Motherhood has really changed me. Some of my friends say I don’t talk and sound chirpy like before. That I now have a deep toned mature voice while speaking. Why won’t it change? After seeing and smelling diapers and poop( sometimes, with corn grains in it), my voice has to reflect the experience. LOL. Motherhood is a funny thing. This is the only place in life you look forward to someone pooping, you hail them when they poop(you even do a moonwalk dance) to make them happy and encourage them to poop more. *Face palm*. Anyway, when I was single and newly married, I judged some moms for doing some things and swore “that will never be me”. Well, helloooo motherhood! It made me eat my words. Here are some things I consciously said I wouldn’t do but life happened and I’m running with it.
- Breastfeed in public places: I kept wondering why mothers did that. My mindset was, “you need to get a room for that”. I knew I was going to be too shy to pop out those ‘companions’ in public. Well, that didn’t go as planned as my daughter was a ravishing sucker. She wanted it every where and I had to go with the flow. Now I’m a pro, especially with my second child. Doing it discreetly even in public places is still my belief. So I advice moms, you don’t need to show the whole world you are feeding a baby.
- Toss out high heeled shoes: I grew up as a Tom-boy so I wore a lot of flat shoes but when I tried heels. I ran with it. I loved them so much. I even sprained my ankle one time because of these but it didn’t stop me. Motherhood happened and I can’t remember when last I wore really high heels. I just keep them as souvenirs now. The highest I can go ,are with the 4 inches balanced heels. Not stilettos! Safety is important, I might go back to them when my kids are grown but that might be unlikely because I’ve fallen in love with wedged sneakers,wedged pumps and sandals. They give me the length of legs, the gait I want and still make me balanced. Because you be mother, no mean say your shakara go stop.
- Suck out mucus from my child’s nose: I used to see moms do this and I was horrified. So just to be clear that I wasn’t going to find myself in such situations, I bought two nasal aspirators(nose suction pumps). My dear when push comes to shove, nobody will tell you to throw those out and use your mouth.It rarely happens but when it’s needed, I don’t even bother reaching out for the suction, I just ‘sluuuurrrrrp!’. Ajebutters be like “eeeewww”, Ajekpakos be like “Nyaaammma“. Na you sabi!
- Bark like a mad woman: These children won’t kill me. LOL. My daughter can be sweet but also can drive me nuts. She has the energy of a thousand light bulbs. Some days I just get overwhelmed and cry. Some days I bark at her like a mad dog. I don’t care if she understands me or not, I just bark to release some steam. I used to see other moms doing it and I called it uncouth. My dear, there is a reason they termed 2 year old toddlers ‘Terrible Twos’. They make you go nuts. Even when you try to live above it and act sweet and calm. They pull that trigger. They see that you are going nuts and they do more and laugh at you for reacting. God help us, Moms.
There are other aspects in which motherhood has changed me but these were the ones I consciously told myself I wouldn’t do (out of ignorance, ofcourse). I know better now.Please share your experiences as a new mum.
To all the mothers, you all rock! You are all doing a very hard job, fantastically. To those seeking to have their own kids, Don’t relent my dears. Don’t give up the faith. Everyone has a season and a testimony. Delay is not denial. Once you hold that child in your hands, all your pain will be forgotten. Motherhood is a beautiful thing.
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