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Valentine Day’s Special: Moms Are Mad!

How silly can it be that the one thing most moms run away from is the one thing that we cannot do without? It’s not news that parenting is hard. It’s the dire need to go back to that ‘hardness’ over and over again while wishing upon a star that your little ones become saints- that is the conundrum. Here’s my short story.

A temporary get-away; a much needed hiatus swung by my way this week and I simply took it. Lately, the kids have decided to be kids; plucking out every hair at the back of my neck. I waited patiently for this disguised hiatus- trust me, it is not the usual vacation with walks in the park and all but at this point in my life, even camping in the attic or basement will be a magnificent treat; away from the play-dohs and Nickelodeon. I finally get this rare chance and all I can think of are…… my kids. I look at the clouds and it looks like I am seeing their faces. Suddenly, they look cuter via a video call and they sound so sweet. It is not up to 12 hours of being apart and I am about to lose my mind. Moms, what do we really want? I know I am not the first experiencing this. Do we do ourselves a disservice putting our kids first?…(wait for it)…..all the time? Every part of me, in heaven and on earth know that I need this break but there goes my heart thumping for the ones who make me mix my tenses and lose my cool at some outbursts. In my kids’ world, they believe Mommy is supposed to be on her toes all day, everyday. If I lay down for a bit, they literally bring up a chore just to keep me up. I’ve yelled, spoken softly, negotiated and it still lands us on Mom’s standing feet. This leads to a cranky mom. If Mom is not happy, no one would be. So it is expedient to take that break and breathe, only for Mom guilt to show its ugly head.

What kind of madness is this? Do you feel guilty as a Mom when you leave your kids to go put your feet up? How do you manage your emotions to make sure you get a bit selfish? A happy Valentine’s day to you, especially the die-hard lovers….MOMS! We see all you do. We can’t put you in a box and label you, ‘a stay-at-home mom’, ‘a working mom, ‘a work-at-home mom’, ‘a single mom’. That downplays the genuine love and strength you have. You are simply a great mom. Now, share your experience at the comment section, of those times you felt so guilty having a bit of break and why?

 

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    Madeline
    February 14, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    I honestly really like what you said at the end about not putting mums in a box. Afterall, a mum encompasses so much more than simply being a bearer of offspring. Anyway, I hope you finished your break and are rejuvenated enough to continue with your hair pulling, foot stomping outbursts!

    Madeline
    http://www.madelinewilsonojo.com

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      Bubu
      February 16, 2018 at 12:23 pm

      Oh dear….the horror of going back. Things we do for love.lol

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    Lincy
    February 14, 2018 at 5:55 pm

    I’ve never felt that guilt. Don’t know y. Maybe cos of d circumstances surrounding their births but I do love them to bits. #strongmum

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      Bubu
      February 16, 2018 at 12:24 pm

      I need to borrow that strength from you. I’m always a mess.

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    Oni
    February 16, 2018 at 9:51 pm

    Had to send my son to my parents’ since they are on Mid-term, so I can rest abit yet I feel so empty and the house so quiet. I just feel some form of guilt yet I waited so much for this break.

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      Bubu
      February 18, 2018 at 1:22 am

      I tell you. It’s the most indecisive feeling ever. Hope he’s back now? lol

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    Chizo
    February 18, 2018 at 7:32 am

    If you figure out how to rid one of the guilt, let me know so we can at least do more as a couple x

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      Bubu
      February 20, 2018 at 12:43 am

      Hahahaaha! Someday…my dear, someday!

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